Supreme Court Ruling: An Enigma

As I sit here writing this article, tears fall from my eyes and drip onto the keyboard I’m tapping on. Tears of sadness for the world and for humanity, for a world succumbing to chaos and madness, the insanity of conflict and war, tribalism, and the “I’m better than you” mentality. Thinking you are superior is always a danger sign.

There is the insanity of certain groups trying to define “what is”, trying to force nature into a box marked “normal”. Nature cannot be defined or adjudicated. Nature has a way of expressing itself with a multitude of spectra, always changing to find another way of experiencing life. DNA cannot be constant as it is, by necessity, always in a state of flux. It flourishes by mixing to discover the greatest level of endurance. Anything fragile within the DNA will not be retained for future generations, thus making the best possible version of itself.

I also cry tears for myself, as I try to understand the feelings and thoughts wrought within me, by the Supreme Court’s announcement of “what is a woman”, and why this attempts to define trans women out of existence. Why do we never seem to ask what is a man? And why are trans men rarely mentioned? Probably because we live in a very misogynistic society.

On the surface, some believe the ruling has given them a victory, swigging the champagne as they did outside the Supreme Court, but this is a hollow victory as it just opens wounds, both old and fresh, in another very small community of a people experiencing gender dysphoria, trying to live their lives in peace.

To force a group of human beings, whose only crime is the need to be themselves, to the edges of society just because you don’t agree with them is insanity. Who is the arbiter of nature? You?

If you, the self professed arbiter, can only find value within yourself by diminishing another, then you have lost, a simple failure of you as a person. Have you lost your kindness, your humanity, your compassion? Are your beliefs the only ones allowed to exist? Ideology is just another word for belief.

Politicians, social media pundits and religious leaders say that the trans activists are ideological in their actions. They use the word ideology in a defamatory way, trying to denigrate their so-called opponents. What they deny, is that their beliefs too are ideological. Funny that! Or not. Don’t keep swimming in the Egyptian River.

What the gender critical’s forget is that their stance is also ideological. These ideologies are simply two sides of the same coin. Neither can win, no matter how much they shout at the other, no matter how much funding they get and from whom. Those on the outside of the “fight” simply watch the coin spinning on its edge, confused by what they witness.

There is no coincidence that the word silent has the same letters as listen. When you shout, you can’t listen as you simply drown out your own voice as well as the voices of others. Communication is a vital ingredient of understanding, so, if you cannot or won’t listen, you will never be able to experience the freedom to be yourself, unencumbered by the opinion of others.

Let’s not forget that politics, religion and finance are ideologically driven, driven by the misogyny infecting the world, driven by the “I’m superior in every way” sort of ideology. Everyone must be placed in a box. No one is allowed to think outside the box as they will be isolated and pushed to the boundary of society, vilified and condemned for the crime of being different.

The Supreme Court, defining a woman as biological, has turned life upside down for many people in the UK. No one wins. Not even those who brought the case. WE ALL LOSE.

Biological can mean many things. If you measure my blood levels, my testosterone and oestrogen are at female levels. If you measure my DNA, you may find XY chromosomes, you may not. I don’t know this for a fact as it hasn’t been measured. If you see me in person, you will see someone who looks feminine and who exudes feminine energy. Early in my transition, I was stopped from going into a public toilet. Even with stubble, having to go through electrolysis at the time, I was turned away from the gent’s toilet, not wishing to upset the women using the lady’s toilet.

We, as a society, now have to experience the unintended consequences of that ruling. It may be a ruling of law and definition, but many will have to live from day to day without understanding that law or its implications. They will draw assumptions, jumping to conclusions about another human being who is different to them. That difference gives them reason to target with hatred and possible violence.

Not many will look far enough inwards to see those consequences as their rage isolates them from their real feelings, feelings and thoughts hidden due to past pain. When we ignore the inner, the outer takes precedence thus preventing us considering before acting. Self-awareness is a vital ingredient to understanding who we are. Studying that pain in great detail and then releasing it, will alter who we are fundamentally as it fosters that self-awareness.

Hurt people, hurt people.

Trauma changes who we are. It changes our body shape and facial characteristics, projecting that trauma into the room for everyone to see and feel. They are unable to see further than their ideology will allow them, halting at the brick wall they’ve built as defence. Even their words are toxic, blasting out their anger and rage to all and sundry.

Hurt people will hurt people. Unless they choose another way of being.

I made the choice to alter the way I look at my life. It has taken 70 years of dancing with fear and learning to understand my pain and trauma. The fear I was carrying wanted my attention. The more I ignored it, the greater the volume became. Once I chose a different path to healing, fear became my friend and simply walked with me everywhere. Fear now stands in front of me as protector, learning to listen to those who have struggles with who I am. I want to understand why I’m being targeted for simply wanting to be myself.

It’s difficult to understand the pain of others unless you are a strong empath. I am a very strong empath. It’s all too easy to see our own pain as far more important, choosing to disregard their pain as inconsequential. No one shouts from the roof tops unless their trauma has exceeded their tolerance levels and so choose to act outwards, not caring who they hurt in the process. This is the “l don’t care who I hurt as long as I get what I want” sort of mentality.

Some people simply aren’t brave enough to dive into their emotions, so give up and acquiesce to the misogyny.

Women have been struggling to have their voice heard for millennia, and probably longer. The male dominance of the world has skewed the balance of energy in society. The human being functions more adroitly when the feminine and the masculine are in harmony. And here I mean the individual rather than the collective. If individuals are balanced, then society is balanced, functioning to assist all to become the best version of themselves.

I suggest that some men have damaged themselves far more than they have women as they have lost all compassion and empathy, kindness and selflessness, and will resort to war, violence and implied terror as a means of subjugation and conquest over their perceived enemies. There are no enemies in reality, just their perception of what they want their world to look like. The attitude of some men is to take “I don’t care who I hurt as long as I get what I want”, to ridiculous extremes. Look no further than Trump, Putin and Netanyahu, three very fearful and fragile men terrified that their world is crumbling around them, trying all they can to maintain their vision.

Misogyny is on the rise in our society and over the world. We can see this in the likes of Andrew Tate and social media owners, and many of the male country leaders suppressing difference with their ideology of normal.

I sense that the Divine Feminine energies pouring into the Earth right now are causing ripples of change, prompting the Phoenix to burn all that is no longer of use to the Earth or us. These energies are forcing men to face their inner feminine, inducing their fear to rise to enormous levels. Most men are unable to process their fear in appropriate ways, so react outwards with savage and violent words and sometimes, with physical violence. Since the misogyny subsumes fragile men to be its foot soldiers, they don’t learn any useful techniques to act with compassion and kindness, so treat the women in their life with total disrespect and a forceful arrogance.

Men must feel again, having been told, instructed by the misogyny, not to feel as it is not manly to do so. Men must not cry for fear of being laughed at by their peers. Not being able to cry or show emotion, traps men into carrying their trauma unprocessed for decades or even a lifetime. It is only now we are seeing the consequences of keeping men tied into a role impossible to hold.

You see, feeling feelings is the gift. They tell you you’re alive. They are what connects you to others and to the world. Without feelings, life is dull and repetitive, a treadmill that cycles in perpetuity.

Because of the Divine Feminine, women are beginning to find their mojo again after millennia of suppression. When the shackles are released, it is natural to explode outwards, knocking over your perceived enemies. Doing so just creates more conflict as you believe your rights are more important than another human being’s.

To subsume another is to subsume yourself. If you act like your enemy, you become the enemy.

To help another is to save yourself. If you see your enemy as just a hurt version of yourself, there is a wonderful opportunity to evolve into something new.

What both men and women are facing now, is the amount of ancestral trauma surfacing to be released. You can’t deal with something until it becomes visible. Right now, everything that needs a witness is bubbling up and pushing people to limits not experienced before.

We need to listen to the voices of our ancestors shouting at us to be heard. Their voices are just as valid and important as ours. They are telling us to learn from their choices, their errors of judgement and their mistakes, and to make different ones. If we don’t learn from the past, we are destined to repeat it. We have stopped listening to others, but more importantly, we have stopped listening to ourselves.

We are in a time of change, of moments of transition and moments of revelation, where the Phoenix must do its work. It is a painful time. Saying goodbye to an older version of yourself is agony. I’ve lost count on the number of times I’ve done this. As painful as it is, it’s a worthwhile journey. It means I’m me, sans the opinion of others.

I am currently nearing completion of a trilogy for publication in 2025.

To use the words of Caren in the trilogy:

“The journey inwards is far more likely to bring greater benefits than a journey outwards. Altering your body through physical intervention is very likely to be permanent, and with no escape in the mix. Altering your mind, changes fundamentally who you are, your beliefs, and the way you’re seen by others. Altering your mind, changes your energy and expression to bring out the real you. Altering your mind, is far more powerful than any amount of physical alteration. You may find that the more internal work you do, the less outer work is needed to bring that sense of peace.”